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Yesterday Huberman released episode 1 from a series with Dr. Paul Conti, Therapist and Chief Resident at Harvard. They discuss tools related to mental health, confidence, and self-improvement. Here’s the first tool:
We’re in a world of rapid gratification. “how do we fix this” “how do we fix this now?”. But there are things inside of us that take months and years to get better. Anything we want to change, we can, but it takes time.
I hear people say ‘why am i not just different’ “what’s wrong with me that i’m not”. But it’s just like everything else, you can get to any reasonable change you want. Not at the snap of a finger, not by magic. It’s by applying the combination of science and common sense that we apply to other things.
Changing beliefs is hard. Especially about trauma, self-worth, body image, and being loved. You’ve said these ideas to yourself for years. We shouldn’t expect them to go away in 5 therapy sessions or a long vacation.
If a friend tells you they went to the gym and got fit. It took them 3-4 months, dedicated work, exercising regularly, making difficult decisions each day of maintaining their nutrition, learning about all the different workouts, etc.
So if you want to improve your mental health. It needs a similar approach. We shouldn’t expect it to work after listening to 1 podcast or having 2 therapy sessions. It takes time.
You need to read and learn about the mind. You need to resist the temptation of holding onto old beliefs. I’m talking 3-4 months of focus. But at the end of them, it’s worth it.
You’ll improve your confidence, let go of the traumas, or fix your relationships with people you love.
picture yourself with amazing mental health. You’re happy, self-accepting, and satisfied with your life.
Now compare that to today.
See that gap? Dr. Conti says you can get it. But it takes just as much time and effort as getting physically fit.
I know how it feels to be stuck in your thoughts. But forcing yourself to be better fast makes things worse.
So . Be patient with your mental health. It takes time. It’s okay. Do the small little things each day that make it better (we’ll get into these soon).
Changing your mental health takes time
Enjoy your day!
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